Quick answer: I don’t make buying decisions for my clients. My job is to make sure they understand what they’re buying, what’s been checked, what’s still uncertain, and what the real risk could be. Sometimes a problem changes the price. Sometimes it changes the property itself. And sometimes I’ll tell a buyer straight up that, if they want my honest opinion, I’d walk away. The final decision is still theirs.
I don’t make buying decisions for my clients. My job is to make sure they understand what they’re buying. What’s been checked. What’s still uncertain. And what the real risk could be.
Sometimes a problem changes the price. Sometimes it changes the property itself. And sometimes I’ll tell a buyer straight up that, if they want my honest opinion, I’d walk away.
They can still do what they want. It’s their money and their life. But they’ll make that choice with their eyes wide open.
Liking the House Doesn’t Make the Problem Go Away
Buyers fall for houses. That’s normal. Maybe they’ve been searching for months. Maybe this one has the kitchen, the yard, the school, the layout they’ve been waiting for. Sometimes they’re already picturing their furniture inside before we’ve even finished checking the place out.
My job isn’t to talk them out of liking it. My job is to keep how much they like the house separate from what we actually know about it.
If something real comes up, I slow things down. Not because every little issue means we should walk. Usually it just means we’ve got some homework to do.
Some Problems Change the Math
A roof gets old. A furnace eventually needs replacing. Homes need upkeep.
That work can still cost real money. But if the problem is understood and reasonably contained, I usually treat it as a math problem.
What’s the work? What will it likely cost? How does that change what the property is worth to my buyer? Can we negotiate a discount that makes the deal still make sense?
Personally, if my buyer is going to inherit work after closing, I’d rather they control it themselves than leave it to the seller. Let my client hire their own people. Let them run the job.
And if they’re taking on the hassle, I’m not just asking for the expected cost back. I want the deal to reflect the work, the uncertainty, and the disruption they’re signing up for. That’s negotiation. It doesn’t mean something is fundamentally wrong with the house.
Other Problems Change the Property
This is where I get a lot more careful.
Unpermitted construction. Odd municipal issues. A questionable addition. Something involving the basement. Environmental concerns. Title issues. Anything that needs real verification. I’m not going to guess on these.
And I’m not going to assume that just because something’s been there for years, it must be fine.
One thing I always want to know with unpermitted work: does the City already know about it? Was there a stop-work order? Is there an open issue? What would actually be allowed there if everything had to be sorted out properly today? Those answers can change the whole risk picture.
An unauthorized suite and an addition built without permits aren’t automatically the same kind of problem. One may raise a different set of use, municipal and property questions that the buyer needs to understand. The other can raise much bigger questions about what was built, how it was built, and what the municipality may require.
I’m not the one who answers those questions. That’s why we bring in the people who can.
I Notice the Question. The Right Professional Answers It.
There’s a real difference between spotting a problem and pretending you can diagnose it.
If it’s a municipal question, I want the answer from the municipality. If it’s about the physical condition of the house, I want the inspector doing their job. If it’s legal, I want the lawyer involved. If it turns structural, or needs an engineer or another specialist, we bring that person in.
My value isn’t pretending I know everything. It’s knowing when an unanswered question is too important to just shrug off and hope for the best.
Once we have the information, I help my buyer understand what it actually means for the deal.
The House With the Creek
I had a buyer under contract on a home with a creek behind it. The backyard had been shrinking for years.
That alone didn’t decide anything for me. There might have been ways to deal with it, but that wasn’t mine to figure out. We waited for the inspector.
During the inspection, a foundation crack turned up. Now the conversation changed.
The seller offered a substantial discount. On paper, it looked like a major concession.
But I put it to my buyer a different way.
If someone gave you a substantial discount to take on a much larger mortgage, and you still didn’t know when a major repair bill might land or how large it could become, would you take that deal?
That was the real question.
The discount didn’t make the uncertainty go away. It didn’t make the future stress go away. And it didn’t change the fact that my buyer had other options.
We walked away. It stung in the moment. Then, not even a week later, we found them a great deal in a better neighbourhood.
That’s something buyers forget when they’re emotionally stuck on one house. There are other houses. You don’t have to force every property to be the one.
Peace of Mind Has Value Too
This is where people can get too focused on the size of a discount.
A big discount doesn’t automatically make a problem worth taking on. Sometimes the uncertainty itself is the problem.
If a roof needs replacing and we roughly know what we’re dealing with, that’s one thing. But if the range of outcomes is unclear, the future cost is unclear, the legal or municipal situation is unclear, or the buyer could inherit something that changes how they use or eventually sell the place, that’s a very different conversation.
Peace of mind has value. Sometimes it’s worth more than the discount.
I Advise. My Client Decides.
This part matters. I don’t make the decision for my client. It’s not my risk to carry. It’s their money.
My job is to give them the information I have, explain the risk, share what I’ve learned, give my honest opinion when they ask for it, and make sure they understand what they’re accepting.
Then they decide.
If they understand the issue and still want the house, I do my job and get the deal done. Where it’s appropriate, the risks, disclosures and advice are documented properly so there is a clear record of what was discussed.
Then they go live their life. That’s how it should work.
Emotion Isn’t Automatically a Bad Thing
Sometimes buyers pay more than strict market value because they love a property. That’s not automatically wrong either.
If they’re going to be there a long time, and the house genuinely gives them something they can’t easily replace, paying a premium can be a perfectly reasonable choice.
The problem is when emotion starts moving the decision without the buyer even noticing.
This happens a lot in multiple offers. The budget starts creeping. A price that would have sounded crazy two weeks ago suddenly feels reasonable because someone else wants the house too.
My job isn’t to pick some number and tell a grown adult what they’re allowed to spend. My job is to make sure they see what’s actually happening.
Here’s the market information. Here’s what comparable properties tell us. Here’s the risk. Here’s my opinion.
Now you decide.
I Get More Nervous When Buyers Want to Skip Due Diligence
Cosmetic defects don’t really worry me. What does is when buyers want to drop protections they told me they needed.
Financing is a big one. Inspection is another. Sometimes competition pushes buyers to waive things because they think that’s what it takes to win.
Again, I’m not there to control them. But I’m going to make the risk crystal clear.
If you told me financing mattered, and now you want to write without a financing condition, we’re talking about that. If you told me you wanted an inspection, and now you want to skip it because there are multiple offers, we’re talking about that too.
After that, if you understand the risk and still tell me to proceed, and the deal can be properly structured that way, that’s your call.
I just never want a client saying later, “I didn’t know.”
Sometimes I Ask Buyers to Stress-Test Their Own Decision
I don’t need buyers to justify every financial choice to me. I want them approved to close. Beyond that, sometimes I’ll ask them to run a simple test in their own head.
What happens if you lose your job for six months? What happens if the suite you were counting on sits empty? What happens if the repair comes sooner than expected? What happens if the income you were relying on disappears for a while?
I don’t need the answers. They do.
If they understand the downside and still want the property, we move forward from a much better place.
There Are Lines I Will Not Cross
There’s a difference between accepting risk and being dishonest.
I’ll help someone structure a hard deal. I’ll negotiate aggressively. I’ll work through complicated property issues. I’ll find out who we need to talk to and what still needs verifying.
But I won’t help someone lie about income. I won’t help someone misrepresent a down payment. I won’t help someone lie about occupancy. I won’t help anyone build a false story just to push a deal through.
That’s not negotiation. That’s not doing the deal.
My Client’s Interests Have to Come Before the Deal
Real estate is how agents make a living. That’s reality. A closing affects income, which makes it even more important to stay disciplined about whose interests come first.
BCFSA is clear that when a real estate professional represents a client, the client’s interests come ahead of the agent’s own.
For me, that means if new information tells us the deal no longer makes sense for my buyer, I have to say it plainly, even if the result is that the transaction dies and I don’t get paid.
My job is to do my part fully. Be transparent. Bring material issues forward. Get the right professional involved when something’s outside my scope. Explain what I see. Share my experience and opinion when it’s useful. Negotiate hard when there’s a real deal to be made. And when my client understands the reality and is ready, get the deal done.
Final Thought
Good representation doesn’t mean telling buyers what to do. It means making sure they have enough information to decide properly.
Sometimes that means negotiating a better price. Sometimes it means changing the conditions. Sometimes it means bringing in another professional. Sometimes it means saying, very directly, “If you want my opinion, I wouldn’t take this on.”
And sometimes the buyer hears all of that and buys the property anyway. That’s their call.
What matters to me is that they understood what they were doing before they did it, and that my own financial interest never got in the way of serving them properly.
Frequently Asked Questions
Will you tell a buyer to walk away from a house?
Yes. If a buyer asks for my honest opinion, and I believe the risk or uncertainty outweighs what the property gives them, I'll say so directly. The final call still belongs to the buyer. My job is making sure they understand the information and the consequences before they decide.
Does an inspection problem always mean you should walk away?
No. Many inspection findings are normal ownership and maintenance issues. The real question is what the finding means for the property, what it's likely to cost, how much uncertainty is left, and whether the buyer is comfortable taking that on. Some problems change the negotiation. Others change how I look at the property entirely.
What happens if a buyer wants to proceed despite a serious concern?
If the buyer understands the concern, gets the right professional advice and disclosures, and still tells me to proceed, I respect that and represent them accordingly. Where it's appropriate, the advice, disclosures and risks are documented properly too.
When should another professional be involved?
Whenever a real question falls outside what a Realtor is qualified to answer. Depending on the issue, that could mean an inspector, a lawyer, an engineer, a contractor, the municipality, or another qualified professional. My job is knowing when verification matters, and helping the buyer understand what that information means for the deal.
Would you ever recommend walking away even after the seller offers a large discount?
Yes. A discount only matters if it actually makes up for what the buyer is taking on. Sometimes the uncertainty, the potential future cost, the legal or municipal exposure, or simply the loss of peace of mind matters more than the price cut.
Found something about a home that is making you hesitate?
You do not need to know exactly how serious the issue is before getting in touch. If something about the property has changed the conversation, we can separate what needs verification, what may change the price, and what could change whether the home still makes sense.
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